One thing I know for sure is when I’m consciously creating my life, my relationships and my career, I get results.
So why am I not always doing that, and what am I doing instead? The truth is, I’m probably defaulting to the bad place. As much I want to hide the truth from you…I won’t, because BANT (Bare Ass Naked Truth), while typically uncomfortable, is damn near always full of opportunities for awareness and breakthroughs. And that’s what I signed up for.
Now back to default. We all have it, and for most of us it’s usually not pretty. Typically stewed in self-doubt, our default presents in many forms. For me, it was all about judging and no one was off limits, especially moi. I’ve judged myself for working too much, and then again for taking time off. I judged myself for ending my marriage, as well as for staying in it too long. I judged myself for judging myself. I even caught myself realizing this silly loop, having a good laugh and then jokingly thinking, “Look at you, judging yourself for judging yourself…dumbass.” Damn, I did it again! That’s 3 layers deep. Often cloaked in humor and seemingly harmless self-deprecation, my default was sneakier than I thought.
I decided I was in need of a little tune up. I could see that when I wasn’t intentionally holding the steering wheel (in my life), I had an automatic pull toward self-doubt. It was like my alignment was off and I was inadvertently veering in a direction I didn’t really want to go. For me, a tune up came in the form of hypnosis. It was the perfect way for me to get back on track. Whether we are looking to sharpen our awareness, shift our default or dump a bad habit, it all comes down to CHANGING YOUR MIND, and what better way than from the inside out?
I’m pretty sure I’ll still visit the bad place from time to time. In fact, I caught myself judging this post more than once. Judging was a part of what I did for so long, however, now I can catch it sooner and come back quicker.
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Each new year I find myself motivated for change, ready willing and able, even if I don’t yet know what that looks like just yet…and for the record, I usually don’t. And so, I put out an intention for clarity, play full-out in the meantime, and eventually discover along the way what form my wild ride will take. I’ll usually figure it out by the end of Feb. So here I am, right on target…
I want you to know that while I will probably always offer teleseminars and programs, I have stepped back a bit from curriculum to focus on Naked Talk Radio. It is now official, WKRP Radio Network is doing a reality show on PBS about the launch of the station, the shows and the hosts. The program will air for 13 weeks beginning 3/26/11. I have also been doing more hypnosis, as I truly LOVE to help people regain their power and control using their own subconscious. Doing it by phone has allowed me to open this up to people outside of CO and even the U.S. It’s been an amazing gift to follow your achievements (from giving up bad habits or phobias, to dating confidence, to improved intimacy). And it’s been my pleasure to walk along side your successes!
And probably most importantly, I am discovering how to marry my quirky, edgy, funny…let’s call it charm, with my commitment to offer important and practical info regarding all things dating, relationships and love. On Naked Talk Radio I’m being true to my authentic self ( a little goofy) AND able to offer value. It’s been amazing to find the sweet spot.
Please tell me (you can comment below, or send a private email to firstname.lastname@example.org) how I can support you, where you get stuck, or what’s standing in the way of you expressing love fully and fully being loved. I’ll cover it on the show where you can listen live on WKRPradio.com @ 11am PT/2pm ET or to the archives, anytime.
To love with abandon is to give up loving in a smaller safer way, in favor of loving fully. Loving small doesn’t really protect us, it just keeps out relationships limited. To love w/abandon allows you not only to fully love, but to fully BE loved.
Sure, we know to be grateful for our blessings and good fortune, but what about the challenges? How about all the stuff that doesn’t go as planned. Will you practice gratitude for those things, too?
I know I will! I pledge to honor and appreciate all of the life experiences I create, attract and allow. This Thanksgiving, I will be grateful for all of it. For my amazing family & friends AND the difficult people. For my support system AND my critics. For my wins AND my lessons.
How about you? Will you see challenges as an invitation to grow, or a chance to be put out? One thing we will always have is choice. What will you choose?
It’s true, there’s always an opportunity to be in a funk, to feel insecure, to question ourselves. But sometimes, just knowing that is enough to keep it temporary so that we can get back to being our best selves!
Because many of us have a rather strong aversion to failure, we’ve done our best to avoid it. Unfortunately, the most reliable way to side step failure is to play small. We do it in how we present ourselves to the world, in our careers and businesses and in our intimate relationships. But eventually we realize that protecting ourselves from failure only keeps things unfulfilling and predictable.
I did it. And I got very good at being average. I only skied the bunny slopes, took unchallenging classes in school, and dated down. It was a good plan, until it wasn’t anymore. Ultimately there’s no real glory in the wins when you already know you can do it without really trying. It’s like winning a game of chess against your cat.
If you can relate, consider doing it differently. Dare to suck. Become a little more courageous and a bit experimental. By giving yourself permission to fail, you actually give yourself permission to soar. We just don’t know it until we try!
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Naked Talk Radio – That is!
WKRP Radio is finally launching my new daily talk show, Naked Talk Radio. Get naked with me every weekday at 11am PT/2pm ET as we strip away the myths and misconceptions about Relationships, Dating & Love. You can call in to the show @ 877.699.4662 or, if your a little shy send an email to elaina@NakedTalkRadio.com and I’ll answer your anonymous questions on air. Don’t miss this edgy and engaging event that is sure will keep you laughing while learning. If you like Dr. Laura, you’re going to hate this show!
N a k e d T a l k R a d i o
Monday – Friday @ 11am PT/2pm ET
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