September 28, 2010
Tags: advice tips, elaina mcmillan, games, intimacy with wife, love, marriage, meaning of intimacy intimacy issues, relationship advice, relationship tips, romance
It’s interesting isn’t it, how things are always changing, shifting, and growing…and rarely in predictable ways. So, my strategy has always been to see change as A: inevitable (it makes me less likely to resist) and B: an opportunity to powerfully create something even more satisfying and fulfilling (hmmmm, kind of exciting).
So with the changing of the seasons, I invite you to take a look at what changes you’d like to incorporate into your life. And if it’s in the area of relationships, what new, exciting practices do you want to bring to the table? Well, here’s a thought…how about Honesty and Communication. Two examples of things we could almost always improve upon. I’m not suggesting that we don’t have this in our present relationships, it’s just that there are layers and levels of each. It may be time to peel back some layers in order to take it to the next level. And you just may be surprised to find what an aphrodisiac honesty and communication can be.
So like a game, I invite you to let down your guard. Share something truthful and vulnerable about yourself (your thoughts, your feelings, your preferences) with your partner. See how disclosure can make you feel closer.
September 23, 2010
Here is the audio replay of What it REALLY Takes to be Sexually Irresistible with Satyen Raja, creator of a Lifetime of Sex, Passion and Enlightenment and author of Living Ecstasy. Discover all Satyen has to offer at warriorsage.com.
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Tags: advice tips, elaina mcmillan, games, intimacy with wife, love, marriage, meaning of intimacy intimacy issues, relationship advice, relationship tips, romance
If there’s one thing I’ve learned about myself it’s that no matter how “evolved” I become, how “transformed” I believe I am, how “stable” my predominant thoughts are, there is always a train heading to Crazy Town. We will always have the opportunity to listen to the voice that says that we’re not good enough, not worthy, not capable. It can show up in many different ways, as insecurity, as jealousy, as fear. And every time we buy in to some version of this self-doubt, we are jumping on the train and heading for Crazy Town.
The good news is, once we understand that there’s always a train coming, it isn’t quite so personal. Just a fixed schedule. There is tremendous power in recognizing that just because it’s rolling by, doesn’t mean we have to hop on. And so we resist boarding, in favor of staying grounded and plugged in to our greatness. Right on.
However, count on this…there really is always another train coming. And sometimes we won’t resist. We’ll buy the ticket and take the ride. That’s okay, we’ve all done it. But now the goal becomes choosing to stay on the train. Just because you’ve boarded doesn’t mean you have to get off in Crazy Town. You can pass right through and come on home! And sometimes you will. Way to go.
But then there are those times when we do get off. This is when it’s important to declare that you’re just a tourist. Take a look around, buy a postcard and then head back. Don’t shop for real estate, don’t run for office, don’t stay any longer than you need to. Come back to your power and know that you’ll soon have a fresh new chance to not board the next one. Because there’s always a train heading to Crazy Town.