To love with abandon is to give up loving in a smaller safer way, in favor of loving fully. Loving small doesn’t really protect us, it just keeps out relationships limited. To love w/abandon allows you not only to fully love, but to fully BE loved.

It’s true, there’s always an opportunity to be in a funk, to feel insecure, to question ourselves. But sometimes, just knowing that is enough to keep it temporary so that we can get back to being our best selves!

Because many of us have a rather strong aversion to failure, we’ve done our best to avoid it. Unfortunately, the most reliable way to side step failure is to play small. We do it in how we present ourselves to the world, in our careers and businesses and in our intimate relationships. But eventually we realize that protecting ourselves from failure only keeps things unfulfilling and predictable.

I did it. And I got very good at being average. I only skied the bunny slopes, took unchallenging classes in school, and dated down. It was a good plan, until it wasn’t anymore. Ultimately there’s no real glory in the wins when you already know you can do it without really trying. It’s like winning a game of chess against your cat.

If you can relate, consider doing it differently. Dare to suck. Become a little more courageous and a bit experimental. By giving yourself permission to fail, you actually give yourself permission to soar. We just don’t know it until we try!

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Today is election day in the states and it got me thinking…Aren’t relationships an awful lot like holding an elected position? Think about it, we’re kind of “campaigning” when we are dating. We make promises (literal or implied) about how things will be different if they “elect” us. We often share only our best self. We introduce “the voter” to our enthusiastic “supporters” (friends) who confirm why we are the best “candidate” (look, it even has “date” in the word, lol).

And by the way, I’m not suggesting that campaigning is wrong - in either case. It’s a natural way to be chosen. However, I think far too often (also in either case) disappointment and frustration can occur when there is an absence of follow through once elected. If the promises were not honored after the win, then the voter is left feeling bamboozled and manipulated.

So, when campaigning for the office known as Significant Other, be real! Make promises you know you can keep. And if you’re already an elected official, revisit the promises you made during the last campaign and ask yourself if you are fulfilling them so that you may continue to get the vote.