Don’t Judge Me, I’ve Got it Covered
One thing I know for sure is when I’m consciously creating my life, my relationships and my career, I get results.
So why am I not always doing that, and what am I doing instead? The truth is, I’m probably defaulting to the bad place. As much I want to hide the truth from you…I won’t, because BANT (Bare Ass Naked Truth), while typically uncomfortable, is damn near always full of opportunities for awareness and breakthroughs. And that’s what I signed up for.
Now back to default. We all have it, and for most of us it’s usually not pretty. Typically stewed in self-doubt, our default presents in many forms. For me, it was all about judging and no one was off limits, especially moi. I’ve judged myself for working too much, and then again for taking time off. I judged myself for ending my marriage, as well as for staying in it too long. I judged myself for judging myself. I even caught myself realizing this silly loop, having a good laugh and then jokingly thinking, “Look at you, judging yourself for judging yourself…dumbass.” Damn, I did it again! That’s 3 layers deep. Often cloaked in humor and seemingly harmless self-deprecation, my default was sneakier than I thought.
I decided I was in need of a little tune up. I could see that when I wasn’t intentionally holding the steering wheel (in my life), I had an automatic pull toward self-doubt. It was like my alignment was off and I was inadvertently veering in a direction I didn’t really want to go. For me, a tune up came in the form of hypnosis. It was the perfect way for me to get back on track. Whether we are looking to sharpen our awareness, shift our default or dump a bad habit, it all comes down to CHANGING YOUR MIND, and what better way than from the inside out?
I’m pretty sure I’ll still visit the bad place from time to time. In fact, I caught myself judging this post more than once. Judging was a part of what I did for so long, however, now I can catch it sooner and come back quicker.
I want to hear your story. Leave your comment below or contact me @ elainamcmillan@yahoo.com.
Hi Elaina! Your article is great… so thank you for taking the time to post it. After I read it, I decided to leave you a comment… but then I then I started second-guessing myself. Gee, she took so much time to craft a clever article. That means I’ll have to take a lot of time to write a really thoughtful and cogent comment. I was about to click away and send you no love when I realized that I was falling into the same trap you’d just decribed. Sheesh. I believe that we are all definitely our own worst critics. The worst part is when we allow that part of us to keep us from following our instincts… especially when it involves paying someone else a kindness. You’re a special person and I know I speak for many when I say that you’re openness and desire to help others is always appreciated. Have a great Thanksgiving.
Jeez, I just can’t imagine where you could have come by such a trait. Did I raise you to doubt yourself? Did I demand perfection? Was I too critical of the way you made your bed
or stacked the dishes in the diswasher? Oh….wait…oops…
Lanie, oh Lanie. Your BANT is so powerful! Never stop stating your truth that we all can relate to (I sure know I can relate to it), and in turn allows us to state ours as well. It takes this kind of awareness, openness and honesty to live an authentic life…and to teach others the art of being authentic. You are one beautiful and authentic Woman…and Teacher! Love to You Always Sister! ~Nanette