To love with abandon is to give up loving in a smaller safer way, in favor of loving fully. Loving small doesn’t really protect us, it just keeps out relationships limited. To love w/abandon allows you not only to fully love, but to fully BE loved.
It’s true, there’s always an opportunity to be in a funk, to feel insecure, to question ourselves. But sometimes, just knowing that is enough to keep it temporary so that we can get back to being our best selves!
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WKRP Radio is finally launching my new daily talk show, Naked Talk Radio. Get naked with me every weekday at 11am PT/2pm ET as we strip away the myths and misconceptions about Relationships, Dating & Love. You can call in to the show @ 877.699.4662 or, if your a little shy send an email to elaina@NakedTalkRadio.com and I’ll answer your anonymous questions on air. Don’t miss this edgy and engaging event that is sure will keep you laughing while learning. If you like Dr. Laura, you’re going to hate this show!
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Learn how quickly games like Truth or Dare, Would You Rather, and Two Truths and a Lie can heat things up in your relationship.
Today is election day in the states and it got me thinking…Aren’t relationships an awful lot like holding an elected position? Think about it, we’re kind of “campaigning” when we are dating. We make promises (literal or implied) about how things will be different if they “elect” us. We often share only our best self. We introduce “the voter” to our enthusiastic “supporters” (friends) who confirm why we are the best “candidate” (look, it even has “date” in the word, lol).
And by the way, I’m not suggesting that campaigning is wrong - in either case. It’s a natural way to be chosen. However, I think far too often (also in either case) disappointment and frustration can occur when there is an absence of follow through once elected. If the promises were not honored after the win, then the voter is left feeling bamboozled and manipulated.
So, when campaigning for the office known as Significant Other, be real! Make promises you know you can keep. And if you’re already an elected official, revisit the promises you made during the last campaign and ask yourself if you are fulfilling them so that you may continue to get the vote.
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It’s Autumn, my favorite time of year. I just love the smell of pumpkin pie, the array of rich color as the leaves turn, and one more reason to get close and cuddle. I love all of it! How about you? Do you embrace the change, or resist it? Change is inevitable, so why not learn to leverage it?
Use the natural change in season to inspire a change in the level of connection in your relationship. Here’s how: Get creative. Do things together that you’ve never done. I’ll even make this easy for you. Here are a few fall inspired date ideas I recently shared in a short article. Pick one, or better yet try all three.
1. Get Sizzling, Sensuous and Succulent
Celebrate the fall by visiting a local farmer’s market for some seasonal fare and then spend the evening heating up the kitchen while cooking together. Be sure to include romantic spices and flavors such as nutmeg or vanilla. Highly prized by the Chinese as an aphrodisiac, a little nutmeg in a warm pumpkin soup can be a delicious way to help spice up your evening. And the scent of vanilla is believed to increase lust.
Co-creation is a natural and easy way to bond. Selecting and preparing ingredients together, as well as creating a festive fete, allows for a collaboration that builds connection.
2. 1-on-1 Football
What could be more fun and flirty than frolicking in the park on a brisk fall day. I mean seriously, being chased and tackled onto the grass by your significant other…need I say more?
Physical contact automatically facilitates bonding. After all, tackling includes wrapping your arms around your sweetheart, and rolling around together is a pretty sexy way to “score”.
3. Playing (Haunted) House
Fall is the perfect backdrop for a visit to a super spooky haunted house. It may not sound romantic at first, but it’s hotter than you think and here’s why…fear and excitement illicit a similar physical response. Think butterflies in your stomach, intensified breathing and wild body quivers.
Due to the release of endorphins, fright creates an instant bond. That’s why “love” reality shows like, The Bachelor, include thrilling bungee jumping dates. In fact, some studies suggest that being afraid may deliver a shot of epinephrine similar to what you might experience during an orgasm.
Any time we spend together can be great, but keep in mind that predictability can breed complacency. Mixing it up allows you to design your time together on purpose, not by default.
If there’s one thing I’ve learned about myself it’s that no matter how “evolved” I become, how “transformed” I believe I am, how “stable” my predominant thoughts are, there is always a train heading to Crazy Town. We will always have the opportunity to listen to the voice that says that we’re not good enough, not worthy, not capable. It can show up in many different ways, as insecurity, as jealousy, as fear. And every time we buy in to some version of this self-doubt, we are jumping on the train and heading for Crazy Town.
The good news is, once we understand that there’s always a train coming, it isn’t quite so personal. Just a fixed schedule. There is tremendous power in recognizing that just because it’s rolling by, doesn’t mean we have to hop on. And so we resist boarding, in favor of staying grounded and plugged in to our greatness. Right on.
However, count on this…there really is always another train coming. And sometimes we won’t resist. We’ll buy the ticket and take the ride. That’s okay, we’ve all done it. But now the goal becomes choosing to stay on the train. Just because you’ve boarded doesn’t mean you have to get off in Crazy Town. You can pass right through and come on home! And sometimes you will. Way to go.
But then there are those times when we do get off. This is when it’s important to declare that you’re just a tourist. Take a look around, buy a postcard and then head back. Don’t shop for real estate, don’t run for office, don’t stay any longer than you need to. Come back to your power and know that you’ll soon have a fresh new chance to not board the next one. Because there’s always a train heading to Crazy Town.